Ti riporto uno scambio (due email in realtà) che ho avuto con Derek Sivers.
Derek è una delle persone che più ammiro al mondo, sicuramente è uno dei miei mentor e ascolto moltissimo quello che ha da dire.
Lui è un filosofo/imprenditore, la mia tipologia di filosofi preferita, e risponde sempre a tutte le mail per cui ogni tanto gli scrivo qualche domanda o dubbio.
In questo caso gli ho chiesto qual è il suo punto di vista sull'amore per gli imprenditori felici.
Questo è lo scambio che abbiamo avuto che sinceramente mi ha rincuorato molto.
Spero aiuti anche te!
First and foremost, a big thank you for everything you do and a big hug from Venice (The real one in Italy)!
There is a dilemma I have been pondering for a while, which is "How romantic love fits inside a happy entrepreneur's life". (The adjective happy is key here).
I am asking this because I have been in relationships before but now I am a happy entrepreneur, and all girls kinda bore me.
I want to talk about happiness, success, life, death, time, business, love and so on and I don't seem to find any girl giving me the right stimuli.
At least not enough to make me say "Ok, you can enter full-time in my life".
I guessed you have or had the same problem.
Also, I am a really happy person!
I love my life and everything about it, so sharing it with another person can be "dangerous".
Do you think love can still improve happiness even if I am happy already?
Do you think happiness is binary (you are either happy or not) or there is a range?
Do you believe in monogamy? If yes, why?
Do you believe romantic love is the greatest thing in life? If so, why?
Thank you again for your daily inspiration.
Hi Alex -
My girlfriend is great, but definitely doesn't want to talk about the things I find most interesting. (And I probably don't want to talk about the things she finds most interesting.)
So instead it's a different role in my life. We are comfort, appreciation, security, and of course all the physical stuff.
In other words: just loving someone for who they are instead of as your intellectual stimulation.
But no, I don't think you should try to find a girlfriend now if you're not into it.
Talk about those things with whoever wants to talk about them today, whoever is around. Doesn't need to be a relationship or even a dear friendship.
If you are already happy, having a great love can improve it still, yes. But definitely not necessary!
Happiness is a range.
Monogamy? Depends on the relationship. Each is unique. In some relationships, definitely, 100%. It others? Nope.
Romantic love is definitely NOT the greatest thing in life. 😊